Wedding Day in Poland

This was a real love. True, deep affection. Sharing plans and dreams, beautiful engagement period, wedding of elaborate elegance and ...divorce decision. How come? They seemed to be so happy, didn't they? Nowadays such life scenario happens to be more and more common. Statistics look grim. In 2008 there occurred 257 thousands marriages for 66 thousands divorces. This figure amounts to over 1 of the marriages concluded that year. Psychologists are warning-let's learn to talk to each other!

Standard of living is growing constantly. We get richer, can afford more things that quite lately have seemed to be beyond our reach. However, we pay for that with long working hours, stress and fatigue. The social pattern of a family with a father earning for a living and a mother caring for home and raising children is being discarded. Having Sunday meal together is replaced by a trip to the shopping mall. Wishing to break up with our polish mentality we learn to stop complaining. However, we are unable to express our emotions so we suppress frustrating problems.

Being aware of obstacles you come across in you relationship you will be more likely to overcome problems. 'Incompatibility of temper' reported as the most common ground for splitting up is in fact a lack of communication ability between spouses, which leads to drifting apart. So what can married couples do to avoid bitter disappointments?

You end up a conversation just for the sake of peace. Next time you do the same. Finally one day emotions prevail and a petty dissent becomes a serious quarrel. Often, the more trivial pretext, the more serious cause. Everyday life under one roof is far from romance. Should you be aware of it, you will be more likely to solve conflicts and develop a lasting relationship.

"Marriage is not a status- is an ability"- wrote before World War II famous Polish writer, Magdalena Samozwaniec. Therefore it is worth inculcating good habits from the very beginning of your relationship. Get deep into each other, learn each other's needs, goals, systems of values and ways of thinking. Get to know each other. Preparing for marriage is the best moment for it, why don't you use it? One of the most interesting solutions is a participation in Pre-nuptial Workshops. In Poland such an offer is already available. It combines training with a psychologist on one hand with lessons facilitating preparations on the other e.g. dance lessons or lessons with a priest that are indispensable for contraction of a marriage in Polish Church. Such a weekend package was created by one of the agencies dealing with a complex organisation of weddings- Heart Wedding Planning & Consulting.

Pre-nuptial Workshops organised by Heart gain more and more enthusiasts. During three-day stay in a SPA hotel future spouses learn how to manage emotions and talk about most common problems in marriage such as: healthy argument, phases and crises of a relationship, cultivating their affection and friendship, tolerating flaws and imperfections, forgiving mistakes, managing budget, dealing with in-laws and birth of a child. To diversify the whole package there are also sport activities with fitness instructor for gents and style lessons with a stylist and beautician for ladies. Above activities are of course accompanied by attractions offered by SPA and its surroundings located in the very heart of Wielkopolski Park Narodowy.

First years of your relationship is a period that will decide about your future. It is only up to you if you in few years find yourselves among the mentioned statistics. Love is graceful, patient but do not put it to unnecessary tests. In the end...you are made for each other!

 

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